Last week, a group member reached out to me to ask a question.
What with one thing or another going in her life, she’s noticed that she’s more disoriented and confused than ever! She’s on the Spiritual path and she just can’t seem to figure out which direction to go. She felt like she’s been receiving plenty of “signs” but she may have taken a wrong turn somewhere.
I get it, I totally do. We’ve rather been given this notion that once we begin to become more spiritual in our outlook and conscious of our experience, that somehow everything will be sunshine and roses.
We have this attitude of “well, I’m spiritual, I gotta be the light, I have to shine my light…all light…all the time” and if the path feels funky, we somehow think we’re doing it wrong.
Having fallen for this fallacy, I can now tell you with complete confidence…this is bullshit.
Just because you are AWARE of the light, doesn’t mean that you can stand in it 24/7. In fact it is an impossibility.
It doesn’t work that way. There are SEVERAL Universal Laws that go against this.
You are a Spiritual Being having a human experience. You come into this incarnation as a pure spirit and you will leave that way. In Between you are a HUMAN and being a human is messy.
You are not here to learn to be a better spirit, you’re here to learn to be a better human.
Consider this the “Earth School” as author Gary Zukav puts it. The purpose of a school is to learn. It’s that simple.
As humans, we must acknowledge our emotions and learn to work with them. We must EMBRACE our darkness, and make friends with our funky parts. It’s all part of the joy of being here, we get to learn to fall in love with ourselves. And that means every single bit of it, our stretchmarks, our triggers, our crooked teeth, our funny way of responding to penguins, our love of baby elephants, EVERYTHING ABOUT US.
And if it’s not something we feel comfortable with, we can work towards changing it.
If we find discomfort in our anger or any other emotion, it’s an opportunity to investigate it and to potentially heal it. To do otherwise does not honor our experience. You’re not meant to avoid negative emotions, you’re meant to process them, heal from them and become stronger.
But you cannot heal something you won’t acknowledge. This is where blame, shame and guilt come in. These emotions keep you stuck.
If you step past the blame, shame and guilt and move into “acceptance’ you begin to move forward. In this movement, you can begin to find the healing…and the lessons that came from this.
But let’s be clear…”acceptance” doesn’t mean that it’s ok, it doesn’t mean you have to “like” it.
Acceptance is simply an acknowledgement. “Yes this is a thing, it is real, it happened”
When you look at the truth, you can do something about it. If you ignore it, you are in denial.
And Denial stands for
Don’t Even Notice I Am Lying
Because that’s what you’re doing, You are lying to yourself, you are lying about the fact that you survived the experience and you’re lying about the strength and fortitude you possessed then (and still do now) to move forward.
When I was at the School of Communication, at Northern Arizona University, my absolute favorite professor was Dr John Monsma. Everyone loved Dr Monsma. On the first day of our Interpersonal Communication class, he said:
“We are going to be sharing a lot of our stories here. We all have things in our past that we may be ashamed of, you can either choose to be a victim of your past, or you can choose to learn from it and move on”
I don’t remember much from those days…but I remember that. I remember where I was sitting and where he was standing…I remember the jocks in the front row, the lighting. I remember everything because it was the first time I ever learned that I had a choice in how I viewed my life.
I would give you that choice too.
It’s always been there. The question is, are you ready to accept that?
Are you ready to lay aside the blame, shame and guilt and move forward into your true power?
I’m here to help if you need it.